Gender Roles suck ass

So I have two really close guy friends and I told both of them I asked a dude out and they both flipped the fuck out...in a positive way. They just went on and on about how cool I was, how they loved the idea, and how more girls should be like me and I was just flabbergasted at their reactions in contrast to the reactions of females. My sister and close friend went in on me and told me it made me seem desperate, needy, and thirsty...but never went into detail on exactly how doing so made me these things and in the end I was pretty disgusted by the behaviors and ignorance they displayed. They went into how I'll end up being some sad, unloved baby mama type and I just couldn't grasp the logic of their bullshit. I love them and I know they love me but what's wrong with their arguments were that they were based in internalized misogyny. They've been brainwashed and so easily fell into gender roles, they see someone doing something different-fucking up the status quo and they freak the fuck out for no damn reason. This is why girls are inactive in romantic ventures. They sit and wait for the guy to come because that is what society and the media has placed in their minds to do. It's really sad. We're so much better than this.